Evan Goldstein, founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical, says that nerves before sex can have an effect on the digestive transit. US-based gay men’s sexual health expert Dr. Put it this way: I’ve never been able to look at it, let alone eat it since.” “One time, I got fucked after eating sweet corn.
Even the smell reminds me of that evening now. “Gays who bottom after curry are braver than Marines. “I once stupidly went for curry for a second date and went back to his place,” he explains. “Put it this way: I’ve never been able to look at it, let alone eat it since.” Graham* has a similar tale. “One time, I got fucked after eating sweet corn,” says 25-year-old Callum*. Some bottoms tell me that nerves relating to bad experiences have put them off certain foods for life. “It’s difficult to gauge, but I believe keeping a balance and eating everything in moderation is the best way to feel relaxed and in tune with your body before and during sex.” “On the other hand, dehydrating whole grains, without too much water with them, will slow things down.” But Hobson doesn’t recommend changing your diet drastically. “Eating too much fruit, drinking too much alcohol or eating spicy foods might irritate the stomach before sex,” London-based registered nutritionist Rob Hobson tells me.
However Damian reckons that the fear of mess during sex is primarily psychological: “Even if you feel like something's going to go wrong, it mostly doesn’t.” Perhaps, when it comes to bottoming and food, it's a case of mind over faecal matter. “My boyfriend is clueless and makes chilli for dinner and then expects sex afterwards and I'm like… no.” White bread, pasta, pizza – anything stodgy and you’re safe,” he says. “If you're bottoming that night, my rule is to only eat foods that give you constipation. Spicy dishes are mentioned frequently on the list of foods bottoms avoid.ĭamian*, 28, tells me that his partner often forgets this, which can stop them from having sex. I’m doing all this prep while he gets to eat pizza and fuck!” “I avoid the usual suspects like red meats, spicy foods, anything with cheese and anything too rich like cakes or pastries,” he explains, before adding: “Now I'm wondering if it's worth it. For many, this involves altering their eating habits when they know sex is on the horizon, or constructing a diet that enables easier anal sex.ĭrew also cuts out other foods. Total bottoms, who almost certainly know that they’ll be the ones getting fucked, often develop strategies to incorporate "clean" anal sex into their lives. Nature often takes its course unexpectedly, particularly if food, drink or other substances have been consumed. But not everyone knows which position they’ll be in during sex and sometimes, if you’re lucky, unplanned sex can happen. To avoid this, lots of gay men douche their bumhole with liquid beforehand. It’s not glamorous, but in the world of buttfucking, an accident like this is almost guaranteed at some point. Most “bottoms” (men who are usually penetrated during anal sex) will know the feeling of laying there, praying to the gay gods that when the “top” (the man who’s going to penetrate them) slides his dick in, there’s no poo. A dreaded gay sex scenario can happen if mess, otherwise known as shit, appears during the deed.